Expectations!

**Disclaimer** each persons situation is different but in general the same do not go home and demand that girl/guy follow these guidelines!!!

A question was asked today that invoked an in depth conversation about relationships and its expectations. I am a firm believer of setting the standard for what you expect out of a relationship. I always say if you allow him or her to be a bum in the beginning then they will be one in the end people don’t change only time does! I believe if it is just a friendship you want then keep it friendly and keep it moving. If its sex you want establish that in the beginning get it in and keep it moving, but if you are looking for a long term relationship then you should present that idea and set the standard for what your relationship will be. It really bothers me to see people together who are not equally yolked you making money holding down a household, and looking towards something better out of life and you trying to date a guy/girl with no ambition and no goals or any concept of how to get out of someone else’s pocket and into their own. A relationship is not about one person pulling the other person along. I’m all for encouraging your mate and for helping each other out but if he or she is not willing to help themselves out then they are just dead weight. That also brings me to expectations if you meet a person and you decide that this person is who you want to be with don’t expect anymore from than then you are willing to give of yourself and don’t expect them to give you anymore than you demand for yourself! Set the bar high and keep them reaching now I'm not saying tell him or her they have to keep you laced and fed and smiling 24/7 that’s not even real life but give what you can and expect the same in return! If he/she is not employed then don’t expect dinner dates and movies and costly outings every weekend and don’t go running down to the store to buy everything he/she needs every time you get paid. Also take sometime to get to know a person before you let them in. being equally yolked is not just a physical or financial you should also be equal on a mental and emotional level. Last thing a person who feelings get hurt by a dirty look is to be in a relationship with someone who is cold and unemotional! A person who is career oriented probably shouldn’t be with someone who can’t remember the last time they been to work! A person who has been hurt needs to seek out someone who understands their situation and is sensitive to it. I don’t believe people let go of old pain I believe we suppress it and the only way we don’t carry baggage into a new relationship is to be with someone who knows how to not open up old wounds and causes us as little new ones as possible!